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“House” gets asexuality wrong

In a TV first, the Fox drama introduces asexual characters — only to blame their identity on a medical condition

Writing From Factor X: House Linkspam

Writing From Factor X: "This Is Not My 'Better Half'"

I Am Asexual (and It’s Awesome!)

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Asexual Cupcake: In Which I am Amused; also, puppets

Regarding Bert and Ernie and ignorance. 

Asexual Cupcake: Was I Fired Because of My Asexuality?

What factors were at work here? Was this a result of a sexualnormative society, a sex-negative society, my social phobia, or something else?

Either way, the idea that asexuals do not encounter problems in the workplace because of their orientation is bunk. It is necessary to get along with at least some of your co-workers as well as your boss. You can be fired if you don’t. Not just like I was—they probably put “attitude problems” or something for reasons I was fired. And not just in minimum wage jobs. In fact, that leads me to what reminded me of this.

It should be made clear before anyone can take this the wrong way - the author of this post does not come out and say that they were fired for being asexual (“Now when I ask that, I don’t mean my boss went ‘Oh she’s asexual. Can’t have any of those people around!’”), but that being asexual affected their interactions with co-workers, thus leading to the problem which got them fired. 

Shades of Gray: Confirmation Bias and Anti-Asexual Sentiment

The thing is, if a member of a group that is not a minority says something offensive, it’s attributed to that individual. People don’t assume that all other members of that group are the same. If a white person says something stupid and offensive about the Holocaust, it’s just that person being stupid and offensive. If a black person says something stupid and offensive about the Holocaust, then it’s seen as a bad reflection of all black people everywhere, and there will be people who say that all black people are stupid. All evidence to the contrary will be ignored.

The same phenomenon is happening here, only with asexuals. In any group, there will be people who step out of line, and say offensive things. But to say that all of us are like that, especially when in order to even see the comment in question you have to go through other asexuals who are calling that person out, is pretty ridiculous. And it’s especially so because this exact same phenomenon happens to gay people, too.

asexual curiosities: Life's complicated, Part One: Sex

Say it with me, folks:

“Our society, as it is, can be a harmful place to practice sexuality and also a harmful place to refuse to practice it. This doesn’t come in simple patterns, one person can be judgemental about people who have too much or the wrong kind of sex and judgemental about people who refuse to have it. Let’s accept that each other’s problems are real and aren’t a threat to our ideologies in any way, as long as our ideologies are based on the fact that people are individuals, that the world is complicated. If not, then it’s our ideologies that need to change, not the people who they erase.”